Andy M.
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Sounds positive, PF. Glad you're on the mend.
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Chief Longwind Of The North
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I have lost my parents and know what you are feeling. Don't blame the holidays, or let what is going on with your mother ruin them for you. Of course this year is filled with sorrow. Know that she will soon be in a place where pain, and stress will be ge, andnd amazing growth will be ther.e for her. She will be able to reunite with your brother, her own parents, and others who passed before, and who she loved. At my parent's funerals, I didn't say goodbye. I said "save me a place at the table whe we are together again". It is my belief that there is a life beyond mortality
For all holidays, I make somethig that each of my parent's loved, date-filled cookis from my mom, standing rib roast from my dad, bacon fat basted eggs from my stepfather, and pancakes, or poached eggs from my grandpa. It helps keep them close to me, though we are in seperate worlds at the present. Continue to give your attention to your mother. Even though she can't show it now, she will know it, and be grateful for a wonderful daughter. That it hurts right now is a blessing, as it so shoes you how strong your love for her is. Hold onto that in these difficult times. And temember, your father can't bear the thought of being without her, hence the denial. When reality sinks in, he will be quietly devistated, and will need your support as well.
I know you will weather this crisis. And prayer really does help.
Seeeeya; Chief Longwind of the North
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OP
OP
Cooking Goddess
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CWS, I am so sorry that you are having to go through this, and going it alone. Remember that if you did not love your Mom so much, it would not hurt so much. I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers as you help your Mom leave for her new life.
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OP
Cooking Goddess
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Kayelle, I'm glad that the meds are working and you got a good report from your doc. Keep up the good work!
PF, be a good girl and behave yourself. You don't want to give the doc any more business than you have already.
Thankfully, the second shot had no effect.
PF, be a good girl and behave yourself. You don't want to give the doc any more business than you have already.
It took me two consecutive winters with the flu in the early 2000s to send me for my flu shot each year afterwards. Oddly enough, those were years with limited public exposure. I never got the flu when I was a Girl Scout Leader, religious ed instructor, did food demos in a grocery store, or worked in a mall wrapping gifts. Christmas season was a real stew pot of germs, and yet I never got more than a little sniffle with no other symptoms. Odd. My arm issue was with the pneumonia shot. When I got the first dose, I could not lift that arm at all for 36-48 hours. My upper arm was pinned to my torso; all I could move was the lower half, looking a lot like a T-rex!
Thankfully, the second shot had no effect.
CWS4322
Chef Extraordinaire
The bell rang at 1:00 p.m. Christmas Day...my dearly beloved Momma got her wings. I was so very blessed she was my Momma. My voice was the last voice she heard, the last touch she felt as I planted one last kiss on her forehead--and then she flew away. She was there when I took my first breath, I was there when she took her last. I will miss her every breath I take for the rest of my life.
Chief Longwind Of The North
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Yes, you will miss her, and you know that she is again renewed. You will be with her again, and the reunion will be amazing, for you, for your Dad, and your brothe, and for all eaiting for you to jointhem, when it is your time to start the next phase of your life, the phase that takes you out of mortality.
Whole you are still here though, you are not alone
We are here with you. We are your frends. So go ahead and grieve. Do what's good for you.
When my stepfather passed, I was there. Iy hirt, a lot. When O finally was able to leave the hospital room, I walked out, and through the parking lot. I remember feelin the need to fight. Now inderstand that I'm the guy who would rather walk away from a fight, and be called a coward, than to hurt someone. So this was new to me. And yet, I was hoping to encounter some young-adult, punk who wanted to pick a fight. Fortunately, there was no one to fight. The poìnt of this is to show that extraordinary stress, like the that felt when someone close to you passes, can alter you , if only for a brief time. CWS, you are strog..be the kind of strong that it takes to allow others to help. Know that while I haven't the resorces to physically help, if you ever need some one to talk to, I'm here.
Seeeeya; Chief Lo gwind of the North
Whole you are still here though, you are not alone
We are here with you. We are your frends. So go ahead and grieve. Do what's good for you.
When my stepfather passed, I was there. Iy hirt, a lot. When O finally was able to leave the hospital room, I walked out, and through the parking lot. I remember feelin the need to fight. Now inderstand that I'm the guy who would rather walk away from a fight, and be called a coward, than to hurt someone. So this was new to me. And yet, I was hoping to encounter some young-adult, punk who wanted to pick a fight. Fortunately, there was no one to fight. The poìnt of this is to show that extraordinary stress, like the that felt when someone close to you passes, can alter you , if only for a brief time. CWS, you are strog..be the kind of strong that it takes to allow others to help. Know that while I haven't the resorces to physically help, if you ever need some one to talk to, I'm here.
Seeeeya; Chief Lo gwind of the North
CWS, I am so very sorry. I am here if you need a shoulder. Love You!
CWS4322
Chef Extraordinaire
I didn't feel hurt. I cried until I thought my eyeballs were going to pop out of my head, but I was so glad she didn't die alone when I was in the shower earlier or on the phone. She waited for me. I am so blessed she was my Momma--she was so loving, compassionate, caring, and dare I say--so frigging much FUN! She went so peacefully, not everyone is that lucky. I was afraid she would go into convulsions, etc. Nope, just one gasp, and she caught her wings. She flew before I had a chance to grab her hand and beg for five more minutes...I had had my five more minutes when I cuddled up in her hospital bed and held her hand and talked about the things I remembered and the the things I would miss and yes, I keened a dirge and wept...A neighbour happened to be here checking in on us and helped me wash and wrap her and send her off with blessings and prayers, and yes, tears. Everyone was so compassionate and gentle. She was so tiny and the gurney didn't fit through the door and they carried her as if she were their own Momma. The sheriff, the funeral home director, my Mom's doctor, the coroner, everyone.
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CWS, (((Great, big, smooshy hugs)))
I wish I had some wise and comforting words. I am keeping you in my thoughts.
I wish I had some wise and comforting words. I am keeping you in my thoughts.
OP
OP
Cooking Goddess
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So sorry, CW, for your loss. She'll always be with you in your heart. I'm sure you'll feel her love every day.
You have my most sincere sympathies. You were the best daughter you mother could have wanted and you should have no regrets for that.
Best wishes and prayers for healing.
CWS4322
Chef Extraordinaire
Thank you for your kind words ad sympathies. No regrets. I would not have traded the 3.5 years of caring for her for the world--even though it meant I gave up my life. No regrets. So glad I could spend that time with her. So blessed. Not everyone can do that and I am glad I could.
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Sincere, sincere sympathies...
I so wish I had been able to be with my mom, my brother and my dad. It was not to be, there was and is nothing I can/could do to change it but in my heart I feel I could hug them one more time.
You have renewed that hug for me and I thank you and send hugs to you .
I so wish I had been able to be with my mom, my brother and my dad. It was not to be, there was and is nothing I can/could do to change it but in my heart I feel I could hug them one more time.
You have renewed that hug for me and I thank you and send hugs to you .
GotGarlic
Chef Extraordinaire
I'm so sorry for your loss [emoji17]
Kayelle
Chef Extraordinaire
Well, the time has come to do something permanent about my persistent heart problems with A Fib.
After 5 cardioversions and 3 ER visits with two hospital stays since Nov. 26th, the time has come. Thurs. I will be having a permanent pacemaker implanted with an overnight hospital stay. Two weeks later, after the pacemaker is tested good to go, Jan. 27th they will do an AV Node Ablation with another overnight stay.
I'm expecting everything to go well, but admit to being a little anxious. It's astounding what can be done now days. I'm somebody who needs to know all the details with something like this and this article covers it all for anyone who may be interested.
https://www.melbourneheartrhythm.com.au/learn/procedures/14-av-node-ablation-and-pacing?showall=1
After 5 cardioversions and 3 ER visits with two hospital stays since Nov. 26th, the time has come. Thurs. I will be having a permanent pacemaker implanted with an overnight hospital stay. Two weeks later, after the pacemaker is tested good to go, Jan. 27th they will do an AV Node Ablation with another overnight stay.
I'm expecting everything to go well, but admit to being a little anxious. It's astounding what can be done now days. I'm somebody who needs to know all the details with something like this and this article covers it all for anyone who may be interested.
https://www.melbourneheartrhythm.com.au/learn/procedures/14-av-node-ablation-and-pacing?showall=1
Good Luck KL, I hope this works for you.
Rocklobster
Master Chef
Good luck..thoughts are with you
Andy M.
Certified Pretend Chef
Good luck Kayelle.
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