Vanilla Bean
Master Chef
When are you supposed to be rid of these horrible things? I thought that they come in by early 20's. I'm over 40.
I know this is a very old thread, but I didn't want to start a new one. Currently my vents are more annoying than a petty vent.
It's distressing me that I have to do so much paperwork because my beloved husband, Stirling, died. I'm in serious mourning and the accountant, lawyer, and mortuary are giving me homework with deadlines. I'm snowed under with an enormous amount of work to do, most of which friends can't help with. It doesn't seem fair to lay that burden on someone who is grieving.
I know this is a very old thread, but I didn't want to start a new one. Currently my vents are more annoying than a petty vent.
It's distressing me that I have to do so much paperwork because my beloved husband, Stirling, died. I'm in serious mourning and the accountant, lawyer, and mortuary are giving me homework with deadlines. I'm snowed under with an enormous amount of work to do, most of which friends can't help with. It doesn't seem fair to lay that burden on someone who is grieving.
Thank you dragn and Meryl.
I met with the lawyer for the first time. Phew, he's nice. I feel far less pressure, now that I know more and know that he can handle a lot of it.
At least one problem that many people have when their partner dies and they have a joint bank account isn't a problem. In Quebec, since some time in 2022, only half of any joint bank accounts gets frozen. (unless there is some sort of written agreement for something else)
My sister and I just went through all this for my mom when my dad died in early December.
Prioritize. Your accountant can help with this. Find out what needs to be done right now, and what can wait.
Some of those things we didn't even start until a couple of months after he passed away. We just finished the last thing we needed to do last Friday.
Also, try to use your lawyer as little as possible -- they charge big fees for every minute of their time. We didn't even tell my dad's lawyer that my dad died until March. Then, we told him, "This is what we need you to do."
CD
That was sort of what I expected. But, he is being very up front about costs, without my asking. I had asked his hourly rate on the phone. It was my accountant who gave me this lawyer's name. There is stuff that the accountant can't do and doesn't know the answers to, that this lawyer will know. He isn't charging me for this first consultation. One of the things he can do for me is to get the official death certificate from the government expedited. Usually less than a month instead of usually three months.Like I said, be careful with the lawyer, unless you have money to burn. He's going to want to do as much as he can, and charge you big bucks for it. Keep your conversations with him short, and to the point.
If your lawyer says, "I can do that for you," don't be shy about asking what it is going to cost.
Sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but it is what it is.
CD
Thank you. I can feel them.Taxy, all I can do is offer virtual hugs. I'm so sorry you're having to go through this.