BAPyessir6
Senior Cook
This is kind of an "am I the a-hole" situation. Was I out of line by what I said?
The short of it is I sometimes feel that, when I'm in certain places online, many opinions/experiences are actively devalued even if they're relevant. This is frustrating to me, as I sometimes struggle with valuing my own opinions.
Maybe I just shouldn't go to those places. Or be more careful in what I say?
Now for the story! (This will include people telling others to k*ll themselves and lots of swearing, so if anyone doesn't wanna read that, just be warned).
A girl posted on a (kids) site (this kids site is mostly adults now, so it's lax on what can be said and not said) I frequent, and the story there was this:
I was at the beach with my boyfriend, and I asked him why it's okay for guys to walk around shirtless but not women. He said he didn't know, so I (a female) proceeded to prove a point by taking my bikini off (while on the beach, there were maybe 50 people there) and trying to flash people. He flipped out, called me some horrible names, and we broke up.
Everyone who commented after said how horrible he was for calling her names, "rules for me and not thee" etc.
So I commented, and I quote "Yeah, the things he called you (I listed them in the actual comment, but as I am unsure what I'm allowed to say here, I'll just say a B word, a C word, etc) are totally not okay and very very cruel. I understand why you broke up with him. That being said, I myself would never expose/take my shirt off in public, as I've had men stalk and follow me around when I was 13 in a one piece swimsuit. (My mother had to scream at them to stop following me at a public pool). I feel like creeps are far too common unfortunately, and I would worry that flashing people in public could encourage things like ogling and stalking."
Then the replies rolled in. (Directly taken from the site). "Shut up. This isn't about you; you're being so hurtful and unkind."
"Here comes the police to tell her what to do. You're worse than her boyfriend."
"Who gives a d-mn about your opinion? Go f&-k yourself."
"People like you should just k$_l yourselves. Or at least jump off a very tall building."
I honestly didn't think I was telling her what to do, or that I was being that. . .unkind? I don't know. I don't think I even gave an opinion on whether or not flashing people in public was okay. I was just trying to give my personal experience and thoughts on the matter.
Their responses kind of made me sad though. What do you guys think?
The short of it is I sometimes feel that, when I'm in certain places online, many opinions/experiences are actively devalued even if they're relevant. This is frustrating to me, as I sometimes struggle with valuing my own opinions.
Maybe I just shouldn't go to those places. Or be more careful in what I say?
Now for the story! (This will include people telling others to k*ll themselves and lots of swearing, so if anyone doesn't wanna read that, just be warned).
A girl posted on a (kids) site (this kids site is mostly adults now, so it's lax on what can be said and not said) I frequent, and the story there was this:
I was at the beach with my boyfriend, and I asked him why it's okay for guys to walk around shirtless but not women. He said he didn't know, so I (a female) proceeded to prove a point by taking my bikini off (while on the beach, there were maybe 50 people there) and trying to flash people. He flipped out, called me some horrible names, and we broke up.
Everyone who commented after said how horrible he was for calling her names, "rules for me and not thee" etc.
So I commented, and I quote "Yeah, the things he called you (I listed them in the actual comment, but as I am unsure what I'm allowed to say here, I'll just say a B word, a C word, etc) are totally not okay and very very cruel. I understand why you broke up with him. That being said, I myself would never expose/take my shirt off in public, as I've had men stalk and follow me around when I was 13 in a one piece swimsuit. (My mother had to scream at them to stop following me at a public pool). I feel like creeps are far too common unfortunately, and I would worry that flashing people in public could encourage things like ogling and stalking."
Then the replies rolled in. (Directly taken from the site). "Shut up. This isn't about you; you're being so hurtful and unkind."
"Here comes the police to tell her what to do. You're worse than her boyfriend."
"Who gives a d-mn about your opinion? Go f&-k yourself."
"People like you should just k$_l yourselves. Or at least jump off a very tall building."
I honestly didn't think I was telling her what to do, or that I was being that. . .unkind? I don't know. I don't think I even gave an opinion on whether or not flashing people in public was okay. I was just trying to give my personal experience and thoughts on the matter.
Their responses kind of made me sad though. What do you guys think?
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